As seen in the happiful magazine here. Counsellor Sophie Spiegler answers your questions on loneliness My dad died earlier this year. As it’s our first Christmas without him, I’m worried about my mum. She says she’s fine, but she’s not her usual...
As we leave Christmas Day behind us and start to look into the new year, it’s only natural to begin to reflect. After all, winter is a time for introspection, hibernation, and rest. However, for so many of us, this reflection takes the form of...
When you read the title, what comes to mind? Low self-esteem? Not meeting expectations of others and then berating yourself for it? Feeling ‘less than’ others and noticing the feeling of trying to be ‘better than’ others...
For so many of us, our wounding can be found at the deep of our core. The stories we tell ourselves about how who we are, how we should be in the world, and how people should treat us, so often come from early childhood experiences. If we had...
Consider this – if your wounds are like a litre of water, and your capacity to manage them is like a bowl, inevitably there is going to be some stirring of that water in the therapy process. Would you prefer to have the capacity of a...
You may have spent many years dreaming about having a baby, or perhaps this decision was only made once you or your partner became pregnant. You may be aware of all the dreams you had of what being a mother or father would look like, or perhaps...
Rage, anger, frustration… Hurt, rejected, shame, Sadness, grief, despair We may know the names of the emotions, but not how they play a role in our lives. Often, when our feelings become intolerable, frightening even, we may feel anxious or...
As an avid supporter of therapy – not just as a therapist but as a user, I am hopeful for a new perspective of therapy. With lots of campaigns currently being run by mental health charities – such as Samaritans, Heads together and Place 2 Be, it...
We all have them, but how we manage them varies between us all. They are integral to our lives, they help us to build connections with people, bring meaning to life and help us to know who we are. Through our lives, our experiences of emotions...
We live in a world of loneliness. We live in shame with this. You know the story. We live in a world where communication methods can link you 24/7 with almost anyone anytime on a vast number of platforms. Technology rules our lives, through...
*all identifying features of this client have been changed to protect identity I began working with Sarah, aged 35, when she was in between relationships. Having finished a long term marriage, she felt it was very important to understand what...
Making sense of pain, when we love the person who is hurting us The recent Neverland documentary gives us incredible insight into the thoughts of the survivors of sexual abuse at the hand of Michael Jackson, Wade and James. The survivors talk...